Good Riddance

It appears that Krystal got a little excited and couldn’t wait for me to start telling the story. I’m going to try to pick up where she left off.

I had finally reached my breaking point and I no longer wanted to tease Rebound. I didn’t want him thinking that I was in love with him when I didn’t even like him. He was already planning our lives for when he got back. He tells me that he had just bought a car in Vegas and it was cheaper for him to fly home instead of driving. He decided that we would take a vacation together in a couple of weeks. A road trip. We’ll drive my car over to Vegas and then drive both cars back. All I could hear was I want you to pay for a road trip so I can get my car. Oh yeah, I want you to pay to drive my car back home too. I was done.

I took some time off from work and drove over to Krystal’s apartment. We decided that we would just end it over the phone. He was waiting for me to call him back and give him an answer about the road trip. I had already said no, but he was giving me time to think about it some more. My answer was still no, hell no.

We didn’t really have a plan for what we were going to do. We just sat down together and I handed her my phone. It’s amazing how I can never get him to answer the phone when I want to talk to him, but he will answer immediately if he wants something. Krystal used my phone to call him and he answered. And then he hung up.

I didn’t realize that he would be such a wimp about it. As soon as he heard Krystal’s voice, he hung up. She gave me the phone back and I tried calling him this time. He didn’t answer. She tried calling on her phone and still he didn’t answer. I sent him a text message asking him why he hung up on me. His response, you didn’t call me. I acted as if I didn’t know what he was talking about.

Me: Who’s Krystal?

Rebound: Just a girl I know. She dating one of the boys I hang with.

Me: Oh really? That’s not what she says. She says she’s dating you.

Rebound: Don’t belive her shit. She playing some game. I barely even know her.

Me: You barely know her, but she went with you to Atlanta.

Rebound: Not just her. Her man drove me. She just rode along.

This was true, kinda. Krystal told me that he wanted it to be just the two of them, but she wouldn’t go. He asked Hood for a ride and then asked her to join them. The three of them rode to Atlanta together, but Rebound focused on her completely. And Hood was not her man. This I already knew. I’ve known Hood as long as I’ve known Krys. He has always been there.

Me: idk. She sounds pretty sure.

Rebound: Bitch lying. She don’t know me like that.

While I’m having this text conversation with him, Krystal is also having a conversation with him. She was giving him the full force of her temper (not a pretty sight) and he was still trying to get with me. He was trying to calm her down at the same time. We let him think that we had run into each other while I was out to lunch.

Me: So you calling my cousin a liar?

Silence. Yes, this was the best part for me. He stopped talking to Krystal too. Planning his next move. I didn’t say anything else. I just waited for him to come up with the lie he was going to use. I knew that he wouldn’t just walk away. He wanted something from me and he was going to keep working me until he got it.

Rebound: You going to believe her over me?

So his next move was to blame me. Make me feel guilty. Wrong choice. I already knew that he was a lying SOB. But now with the help of my dear cousin, I knew that he was the worst level of SOB. Damn, men make me stupid sometimes.

Me: She family. Why would she lie to me? I’d tell her momma. (I would too. Well, not her momma, her grandmomma. Very intimidating.)

Rebound: I don’t know why she lying. She crazy. She obsessed with me.

Me: Really? She says you the one chasing her.

Rebound: Fuck no. I never chased her. She won’t leave me alone.

Me: Then how she get your number? You had to give it to her.

He had this habit of changing his phone number every couple of months. He was running away from something. Probably a woman, but it could be anything. He changed his number again when he went to Vegas. He was out of touch for a while, but when he wanted something from me he calls to give me his number. Krystal had his new number, therefore he had to give it to her. In fact, she had it before me. She was the first one to give it to me. Because she already gave it to me I recognized the number when he finally called.

Rebound: I didn’t. I don’t know how she got my number. Baby, don’t let her come between us.

Me: You’ve lied to me before. I’m supposed to believe you now that you’ve been caught.

Rebound: Not caught. I didn’t do anything wrong. I never touched the girl.

Again, this was true. Krystal said she wouldn’t let him touch her. She was not his woman and he had no right to touch her. She thought that he was still with his highschool sweetheart and she wasn’t about to be his girl on the side. She told him that if he could prove that he wasn’t with her then they could have something. He hadn’t been able to prove it. He couldn’t invite Krystal over to “his” place cause it was mine. He wasn’t with her, but he was with me. He sure tried his best to get in her pants though. I read some of the messages. I let Krys know that she wasn’t missing out on anything. It was better back in highschool.

Rebound: Baby, not over the phone. We can talk when I get back home.

Me: I don’t need to talk.

Rebound: I’ll be home soon.

Me: Ok, but home is not my house.

Rebound: Baby please.

This was about the time Krystal sent him the text about the laptop. Something like your ass need to stop lying and give cuz back her laptop. You know you got it. I know you got it.

Rebound: I’m sorry bout the computer. I plan on bringing it back.

Me: You been lying about it the whole time.

Rebound: I took it without asking, but I intended on bringing it back with me. I didn’t want you mad at me.

Me: I don’t believe that. How is you lying supposed to make it better?

Rebound: You gonna get it back.

Me: Good.

He had some legal issues and was currently on probation. He never told me this. I found this out from Ty. Ty ran a background check on him and gave me her findings. He was just like my ex, other than the beating on me. But according to his background check he had been arrested for beating on the girl he was living with. Damn. I sure can pick ’em. The point is, he didn’t need me pressing charges against him. His ass would go right back to jail.

He kept on trying to convince me to forgive him. He even had the nerve to try to convince me to get him a plane ticket so we could talk about it. How difficult is it to understand that I do not want to talk about it? I’ve made up my mind.

Me: It’s over. You can stay there. I have no place for you.

Rebound: Baby. She lying.

I didn’t respond. I didn’t respond to any of his texts or phone calls for over a week. He finally stopped trying. At least for a little while. I figured that he would just stay in Vegas, but something was drawing him back here. I don’t know how he did it, but he did make his way back to town. I haven’t seen him, but he calls every now and then to tell me that he loves me. He knows that he was wrong, but he’s saved now. He is ready to truly be with me. Krystal and I have a good laugh over this. He tells her the same thing.

I was able to move on from Rebound with no problem. I deserve better than that and I know this. My judgement about men still isn’t all that great, but at least I’m free from Daniel and Rebound. Kinda. Daniel is still a pain in the ass. I can’t be completely rid of him because of our child, but dammit I wish he would just disappear. The other men in my life find it so easy to disappear. I need that to rub off on him.

So that’s the story of Rebound. A part of it anyway. There’s other crap that went on, but nothing as bad as I’ve already told you. And no, I never got my laptop back.

We Be Family

I’m just going through life, minding my own business when I get a message on my Facebook account from my cousin. At that time Bobbie and I didn’t really know each other. I remember seeing her at the hospital a few months back and we caught up with each other a bit. We didn’t even exchange phone numbers or anything, just polite conversation.

When I got the message I thought that maybe she sent it to the wrong person. It was just a short one, “I need to talk to you about something. Call Me.” She left her phone number. I called her and she asked me if I knew Rebound. Yeah, I did. I asked her why? She didn’t tell me. She wanted to know if we were dating. No, we weren’t. Not yet. He had been chasing me for a little while, but I was still playing hard to get. I was interested, oh yeah, but he had other female issues that I wasn’t comfortable with.

I told Bobbie that I was not dating him. Once again I asked why. She told me. They had been dating, but weren’t anymore. He was a good for nothing SOB that stole her laptop. Oh, wow. I wasn’t expecting that. Damn. That shit was uncool. This ass was actually trying to get with me while he was with my cuz. What the fuck? Oh hell no. That was not going to work for me.

I told Bobbie what was going on, which wasn’t much of anything. I had just gotten back a couple of days before from taking him to Atlanta. That was how she figured it out. She was just going through her friends on FB and noticed my recent posts. They matched up to things that she knew was going on with Rebound. Hell, my last post was “In ATL with the babe. Spending some quality time before he goes off to Vegas.”

I knew something wasn’t quite right about Rebound. He told me that he was no longer with the crazy girl, but he wasn’t clear about where he was staying with me. I thought that maybe he was still with her, but I was wrong. Bobbie set me straight on that. That SOB was one hell of a liar, but not a good one according to cuz.

I had gotten my hopes up. He told me that he was working at a law firm as a paralegal and making decent money. He had a nice car and a nice place. All lies. He stayed in a nice house, but it was Bobbie’s house, not his. He had a car, but it was a piece of shit. Hell, I drove us around more than he did. I even knew where my cousin lived because I had dropped him off there one night when we had went out to play pool. I was starting to fall hard for him and he was just another good for nothing lying jackass.

Hearing all this from Bobbie was a bit of a shock. She always seems so cool and in charge and her life is perfect, but that was wrong too. She told me about Daniel and then some more about Rebound. She’s just a woman, like me, and she had been taken advantage of. I hate that. Bobbie is good people, more importantly, she’s family.

Bobbie told me that she wasn’t trying to keep me from seeing Rebound. I could see who ever I wanted to, but she wanted me to be cautious. He has proven not to be trustworthy and she didn’t want me to let him get too close and have him take all my shit. Oh no, Cuzzo. This punk ass man has messed with the wrong family. I was going to keep talking to him and let him think that I was eagerly waiting for him to come back home. Once he got back to town I was going to get cuz back her laptop. I was also thinking that I would get Hood and his boys to beat the shit out of him. Yeah, that sounded like a plan.

Bobbie told me that she did not think that Rebound was coming back. I thought that he was. Every time I spoke with him he talked about what he was going to do when he got back. I was still certain that he was going to return after his one week trip turned into a two month trip. He never once said that he was going to stay in Vegas. He was having some money trouble, which I’m certain was true, and he just needed to get up the cost for a plane ticket or at least gas money. He was planning on buying a car and just driving it back. (I know, that makes no sense, but that’s what he said.) Bobbie thought that he was trying to get me to play for a plane ticket. She had done that for him once before. I didn’t have no money to be buying his ass a ticket. I wouldn’t have done it even if I did have the cash.

A couple of weeks into his trip he started calling Bobbie again. He was giving her those “Baby I love you and I can’t wait for us to be together” stories. She called me the second she got the first text from him. We agreed that she would pretend to miss him and want him back. He was either going to her or me first when he got back into town. We were just trying to get that laptop back. Bobbie kept their conversations to a minimum cause they made her sick to her stomach.

It was funny. He would text her and she would forward me the messages and I would do the same. He would lie and lie and we knew about it. He was a damn fool. We had to be careful about what we said to him. We couldn’t let it slip that we knew he was full of shit. We both dropped hints every now and then about family. lol. Bobbie told him that they could have a cook out when he got back. It could be a party. She had a cousin that she wanted him to meet.

We both got tired of playing along with him waiting for him to come back. Bobbie said that she couldn’t pretend to be nice to him anymore. It was making her physically ill. She could do without her laptop. She would rather never see him again. Ok, I could go for that. But he made it clear to us both that he was coming back. He wouldn’t give either one of us a date, but he was going to be back. He tried to get Bobbie to buy him a plane ticket, but she refused. Told him that if he woulda paid her back for the last ticket like he was supposed to then she woulda had the money for a ticket, but he didn’t pay her back and she was broke.

Bobbie tried her best to hold out until he got back, but she finally reached her breaking point. She made it clear that she was still upset with him and didn’t think that she could just jump right back into a relationship with him. He still denied taking the laptop. I know for a fact that he has it because he let me use it when we went to Atlanta. Anyway, he told her that he understood and that they could take things slow. She let him know that he did not have a place in her house and that’s when he started to lay it on thick. He was in love and wanted to marry her as soon as he got home. She listened to that BS without bursting into laughter.

While he was proposing to my cuz over the phone he was professing his love to me as well. His lease was just about up on his place and it would be a great time for us to move in together. We were meant to be together. I countered with the fact that my lease was just about up too and I would just rather we stayed at his place since it was so much bigger than mine. He didn’t like that, but couldn’t explain why he would want to stay at my small apartment when he had such a big house.

Bobbie got fed up and she didn’t want to play games with him anymore. It was time to end it. She could just get her a new laptop when she had the money. She already had an older one at home that still worked fine. The laptop that Rebound took was actually one of those netbooks. She loved that little thing and hated to let it go, but letting it go was preferrable to possibly being in the same room with Rebound again.

It was time for the two of us to end things with Rebound. Just calling him up and telling him wasn’t good enough. We wanted to make him sweat. And that’s exactly what we did. Good times, oh yes. Check back for the rest of the story.

On The Rebound

 

Since Krys has joined us on this blog I figured I might as well get the story of Rebound over with. I’m going to try to make it fit into one post, but it may be a bit long.

Rebound was my best friend in high school. Looking back on it, I realize that he wasn’t the great guy that I remember him being. My vision on it all was a bit cloudy. He was my closest friend and I spent a lot of time with him, but I didn’t really know him as well as I thought I did. Of course, there were clues, but I ignored all that. The biggest clue of all should’ve been the way he played with my emotions.

He was my friend and I expected nothing more than that. Throughout majority of our friendship he was dating the same girl. I didn’t like her, but I had my reasons and they were valid. But he was in love and I figured I would let him make his own mistakes. She didn’t like me either. And then there was the fact that I was sleeping with her man. I’m not actually sure how that came to be, but it happened. A few times. And it was great, and I fell head over heels. Stupid. He was my friend, but he never attempted to become more than that, other than the occasional sex.

So life goes on. He graduates and goes into the military and moves away. I basically never hear from him again after his last visit home. His mom passed away that year and he had no more family in the area. Sure, I thought about him from time to time and wondered how he was doing, but that was it. And then one day I get a friend request from Facebook and it his him. OMG. Talk about excited. I accepted and it was like all this time never passed. He was the same guy I could talk to about anything. And dammit, he had moved back into the city.

This was during the end of my relationship with Daniel. Rebound was there for me to vent to. I told him the things that I didn’t tell Ty. He was supportive through it all and made it clear that he wanted me out of that relationship. He said it was going to end badly and he didn’t want me hurt or worse. I knew this was true, but how was I going to support my kids on my own? I never had time to think about it. Daniel attacked me one day with a knife and it was over. I had my cell phone in my hand and called 911 as soon as I realized the fight was getting out of hand. The police were the ones to get him out of the house. I never let him back in.

That was a horrible day. I cried all over Ty and Rebound came by later and I cried all over him and then some. Huge mistake. What do I end up doing? I jump from a relationship with Daniel into a kinda relationship with Rebound. I forgot to mention he was back in the city, but he was also back with her, his high school sweetheart. He made up all sorts of excuses about how it was convenient and they weren’t even close anymore. He wanted out, but needed to make sure she would be able to support herself first. She had three children (none of which were his) and just one job.

I was just fresh out of my relationship and unsure of where I was going so this was okay for me, for a while anyway. He was still there for me to talk to and he would visit every now and then. I was okay. But things started changing. He didn’t call anymore and had little time to talk to me. He was lying to me and I was catching him at it. He wasn’t very good at it. I was getting a very bad feeling about him and Ty was like “forget his ass”. But this was the guy that I was so close to at one point in time and I started making excuses for him myself. He was a damn jerk towards me but then he would plan these great weekends for us. Took me a while to realize that I was paying for most of it myself. Stupid.

I had started to get smart and I stopped calling him. It was time to move on and I tried my best. I started dating other people. Went on a few dates here and there. He would call me every few days asking me why I was ignoring him. Gave me a sense of power. I liked it. But I was sure there was no future for us and I needed to just forget about him. And then he shocked the hell out of me. He dumped the girl. (Now that I’ve gotten to know him better, I’m thinking she kicked him out.) So he ended up staying with me for a while. Stupid again.

He wasn’t there long. When I let him move in he told me that he had planned on leaving. He wanted to be with me, but he needed to go visit with his son for a little while. His son lives in Nevada with his mother and it’s been a while since he was able to visit with him.  Story sounded okay, but it rubbed me the wrong way. The couple of weeks he was with me were okay. He already knew my kids and they got along great. But he definitely didn’t act like a man who wanted to be with me. He went out most nights and came back only after I was asleep.

He booked a flight to Nevada on his own. I questioned the trip. I didn’t know how he was going to get there and I was not going to be out of pocket anything. His place of employment had closed down so he had been without a job for a couple of months. No, I wasn’t supporting him other than giving him a place to stay. But he planned his trip and he was real excited about it. He packed his things. And when he packed, he packed everything. He wasn’t coming back. I was certain. He said otherwise, but I knew he was lying. I figured he was just trying to get back with his baby’s momma.

He tried sneaking off when he finally left, but that didn’t work. He actually tried leaving without telling me. He had tried to get me to take him to Atlanta, cause that was where he wanted to fly out of. I refused. I was in no mood to finance a trip to Atlanta. He tells me that he thought I didn’t care so he was just leaving. He found a ride and they were ready to leave right then. I should’ve paid more attention when I told him good-bye. He left my house and took my laptop with him. Talk about pissed. He tried convincing me that he didn’t take it and it was still at the house, but I know where I keep my things and so do my children. It was definitely over. I wanted nothing else to do with him.

But FB brought him right back into my life. Turns out there was another female that he was courting. I wouldn’t have cared, but dammit, it was my cousin.

Yep, I can really pick ’em. Stay tuned for my next post for the rest of the story. Krystal is gonna help out with it too.

So This Is Me

Hi all, my name is Krystal and I’m new to this blog. I’ve known about this blog since Bobbie first starting posting on it. She told me about it and I checked it out. I found out quite a bit about my cuz that I didn’t know. Shocker. It’s true that we were never really close before we ended up with roles in the soap opera she calls Rebound, but we are family. Usually you hear things about what’s going on with everyone else. You didn’t really hear a lot about Bobbie though. We are from different branches of the family. My side is more vocal and I guess “ghetto”. Not me though, of course not.  Bobbie’s side is very conservative.

About me. I’m 25 years old. I work as a LPN at the hospital. I’m single, no children, living on my own. You would think things would be easy for me, but hell no. I find myself struggling alot and Bobbie has helped me out some, but she is having a hard time now too. I trying to make improvements to my life and going back to school is the first step for me. Bobbie has helped me there. She’s actually been really great to me and I’m thankful, but I need to grow up and do some things on my own.

I grew up in a very confused household. My parents were never married. My dad has not ever been a large part of my life. I do know who he is and he does know who I am, but we just don’t talk. My mom wasn’t a large part of my early years either. She had me young and had things that she wanted to do with her life and my grandmother took up the responsibility of raising me. She is the woman I call Momma. Most people believe that she is the woman who gave birth to me, but no she did not. In fact, she gave birth to my Uncle Joe three months before I was born.  Yep, my uncle and I are the same age.

Things were tight with money growing up and I wanted better than that when I finally became a grown up. That has not exactly happened yet. I’m not struggling so much that I’m begging for help, but things are hard. It’s my fault too. I think that since I’m not raising kids that I can spend my money on whatever I want. I can, but bills gotta be paid too. Shopping is just too addicting. I like going out with my girls too and you can’t always depend on guys to pay your way.

I’m dating, nothing serious yet. I do believe in true love, but not sure if it’s for me. I didn’t grow up around that. My Momma was a single mother. My mom was too when she got her act together, so is my aunt and majority of the women on my side of the family. I’m not used to having a good man in my life or around my family. Honestly, I don’t believe that they exist.  Just use them for what they are good for and let them move on cause they are going to anyway.

Bobbie tells me that this is wrong. Good men are out there, they are just hiding and you have to find them. She is on her little hunt now and tells me that I’m on my hunt as well. I don’t agree. I’m not looking for a man, I don’t think. Yes, I like male attention and enjoying spending time with them, but don’t think that married life is for me.

There is one man in my life that I find trustworthy, for the most part.  I’m gonna call him Hood, well everybody calls him Hood. He’s not your average hood boy, but likes to think that he is. He is also my best friend. We grew up together. He started out being friends with my Uncle Joe but I was always there that we became friends too. There has never been anything romantic between the two of us and I have never wanted there to be. He’s just a good guy that is there when I need him. And I’m there for him when he needs me, which is a lot. I’m the one who has to get these hos out his life when they get out of hand. But he my boy and I can do that.

That’s me, like my road sign says. Bobbie makes those by the way. Ty and I tell her what our posts are going to be about and she comes up with those little signs for us. I think they cute. She tends to go overboard with stuff though. Love her, but she gonna wear herself out. I think I’m gonna help her with that. The least I can do.

Here’s Krystal!

 

This blog was intended as an outlet for Ty and myself. Ty was all excited about it in the preparation stage, but now that the blog is up and running she has gotten nervous about actually posting. She’s not running away, but she’s not as active as we intended.

Ty and I are the best of friends and we share everything with each other, but we are not the only people that we talk with. I don’t hide my problems from everyone, but I don’t make them public either. I have noticed that there are ladies everywhere that have similar issues to my own. It’s so easy talking to people who know exactly what you are going through or have a part in it in some way.

Krystal, our new author, is my cousin. We are a few years apart in age and we didn’t acutally know each other that well until about a year ago. True, we were aware of each other, we’re family, but other than family reunions we didn’t spend a lot of time together. And then something, no, someone happened. Krystal actually plays a big part in the play that was Rebound. It’s one hell of a story and we will tell it soon.

Krystal is different than Ty and I. She has never been in a serious relationship and for the most part enjoys being single. I can’t tell you much other than that. I’ll leave it for her to tell. Krystal has been making changes in her life as well and men play a big part.  Krystal is also an active blogger anyway and actually asked me if she could be a guest blogger. I’ve thought it over and decided to make her a permanent member of the blog. Yes, I talked it over with Ty and she agreed.

Krystal and I have gotten fairly close over this past year and actually have regular date on Thursday nights. She comes over and I make us some drinks. We usually vent about our week and tell about our weekend plans. I usually don’t have any, but she always does. Yeah, I get jealous sometimes.

So, without further ado, here’s krystal…

(I’m sure she’ll make a post soon. lol.)