Here’s Krystal!


This blog was intended as an outlet for Ty and myself. Ty was all excited about it in the preparation stage, but now that the blog is up and running she has gotten nervous about actually posting. She’s not running away, but she’s not as active as we intended.

Ty and I are the best of friends and we share everything with each other, but we are not the only people that we talk with. I don’t hide my problems from everyone, but I don’t make them public either. I have noticed that there are ladies everywhere that have similar issues to my own. It’s so easy talking to people who know exactly what you are going through or have a part in it in some way.

Krystal, our new author, is my cousin. We are a few years apart in age and we didn’t acutally know each other that well until about a year ago. True, we were aware of each other, we’re family, but other than family reunions we didn’t spend a lot of time together. And then something, no, someone happened. Krystal actually plays a big part in the play that was Rebound. It’s one hell of a story and we will tell it soon.

Krystal is different than Ty and I. She has never been in a serious relationship and for the most part enjoys being single. I can’t tell you much other than that. I’ll leave it for her to tell. Krystal has been making changes in her life as well and men play a big part.  Krystal is also an active blogger anyway and actually asked me if she could be a guest blogger. I’ve thought it over and decided to make her a permanent member of the blog. Yes, I talked it over with Ty and she agreed.

Krystal and I have gotten fairly close over this past year and actually have regular date on Thursday nights. She comes over and I make us some drinks. We usually vent about our week and tell about our weekend plans. I usually don’t have any, but she always does. Yeah, I get jealous sometimes.

So, without further ado, here’s krystal…

(I’m sure she’ll make a post soon. lol.)


Join Us on the Road

Hi, all. My name is Bobbie Jo. A while back my best friend, Tywanda, and I decided that we were going to have control of our lives. Well, that’s not quite true. We both do have control of our lives, just not our relationships. No, we don’t mean controlling our significant others, although I happen to think that Tywanda is doing that pretty well. We mean being truly happy in our love lives, finding that perfect match for us and it actually being real.

Ty and I have only been bff for a couple of years now, but there is no one that I have ever trusted more. I am lucky to have found someone that I can truly be myself with. The funny thing is that the two of us have known each other for years but never took the time to get to know each other better. But one day our jobs forced us to spend some actual time with each other and our friendship was born over lunch, the best grilled chicken pasta, ever.

So we started our friendship with each of us thinking that the other person was happy. But we soon came to the realization that this was not true. We are both successful, professional business women. We are both great mothers (not bragging, this is just true). We are both very likable people. But we were both so unhappy in our relationships. The both of us also thought that we were stuck that way. Not necessarily true.

We are both very research minded so it was natural for us to start researching how to improve our relationships. But that wasn’t really what we were looking for. We wanted to know how to improve ourselves. We are both deserving of the perfect lifemate, but we were settling for a lot less. We needed to be more confident in who we were. We learned that women who are confident are sometimes perceived as bitches. And we embraced that. That is what we wanted for ourselves, to become true bitches.

We wanted to be women who knew what they wanted and refused to accept anything less. We are not quite there yet. To tell you the truth, we may have gotten a bit lost. We have spent so much time speaking with each other about our journey and what we may or may not be doing wrong. Sometimes we have these absolute moments of clarity that we want to share with others. We have moments of stupidity too. We figured that other women could learn from our stories, our victories, and our mistakes (believe me, we make lots of them). So that is how this blog was born. We are inviting others to join us on our journey to Bitch, on the road to true bitchdom.

Disclaimer: Feel free to comment and give advice/direction. We can’t and won’t promise that we will follow them. We are not perfect women and we know that everything we do may not be right. You can make your opinions of us (we know that we can’t prevent that) but don’t bother judging us. We judge ourselves enough. When your heart is involve you sometimes do stupid things.

So with all that said, let the road trip begin!!!